"My swim coach outed me to my entire team in college."
“It was freshman year. I hadn’t come out to my dad yet. I’d come out to my mom, but it didn’t go well. Then one day my swim coach came up to me at a meet, and said: ‘There’s something I want you to tell me before the meet is over. And I think you know what it is.’ So I told him. And he said: ‘I don’t want things to get weird in the locker room, so let’s keep this between us.’ Then I went home, took a nap, and when I woke up, I had an email from another person on the team. He told me the coach had called a team meeting and told everyone.”
“I called the coach, and he immediately started yelling at me. He was saying things, like ‘It’s my team. Don’t tell me how to run my team.’ He was really intense. He was like The Coach in New England swimming at the time. I kept trying to get off the phone, but he kept screaming at me. Then when I finally got off the phone, he showed up on my doorstep. He made me tell him who told me about the meeting. Then he made me get in the car with him, drove me to my teammate’s house, and started yelling at both of us. He started accusing us of being lovers.”
“I know. I quit swimming after that year, and never swam again.”
"They say that you’re supposed to stand up to bullies, but there’s not much you can do when the whole class is like that."
“Why do they make fun of you?”
“Let’s see. My weight, obviously. The fact that I read for fun. Mostly sci-fi and fantasy. I watch Nova. I don’t like sports. You know those loud, obnoxious kids you see hanging out in groups, screaming at people? That’s my whole school.”
“So what do they do to you?”
“Just yell at me and throw stuff at me. But I am proud of one thing. Most kids who get picked on completely spaz out at some point, and get violent. That hasn’t happened to me yet.”